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The Day Everything Changed


Xander taking care of his crying baby. October 11, 2008

I didn’t think that there was actual proof of the pivotal turning point.  Thanks to Facebook and the memories of the day to look back on, I have reminder of when it happened.  When my eyes opened.  “Xander taking care of his crying baby.” October 11, 2008.  The day everything changed for me. See, this is the day I came to the realization that my mother may have the beginnings of cognitive decline, of some sort.

The evening started out simply.  My husband and I were going out for a quiet dinner. An early celebration of our wedding anniversary and my mom would watch my 2 children. My daughter was only about 3 months old and still breastfeeding pretty often.  I left 4 bottles of pumped breastmilk with 2 oz in each bottle for the 2 hours we may be out.  Way more than she would eat in such a short window, but I felt it better for my mom to have more milk than less. We also left prepared food for our son Xander, about 2 1/2 years old at the time. My theory was grandparents should be able to enjoy their grandchildren and not have to cook, especially with 2 grandchildren so young.

We enjoyed a wonderful quiet dinner together celebrating 7 years of marriage. Nothing prepared me for what happened next.  We walked in the door to my daughter’s blood curdling screams. Never before had I heard her cry in this manner, and never since. We were darn lucky to have 2 kids that were, for the most part, happy all the time.  Hungry? Feed them and they are fine. Soiled diaper and/or undergarments? Quick change and they were good to go (you get the idea).  This was bizarre.  My son commented “Mima, no more snacks. Real food please.”  Mom hadn’t fed him? Nope.  The food and the 4 bottles, still in the fridge where I left everything. I immediately put her to the breast which immediately settled her down while my husband fed our son.

I asked mom what happened and she had no idea what was wrong. “I fed her, bathed her, changed her, played with her. She is just too attached to you!”  When my daughter finished nursing, my husband took both kids upstairs to the guest room for bed while I went to investigate for myself.  There they were. All 4 bottles I had pumped. Now you may be thinking, could I have been off with the count? When you are breastfeeding and pumping, usually, you remember exactly how much you worked your butt off to produce. When I brought this to mom’s attention, she remarked “you must have brought more than 4.” Being the ridiculously logical of the bunch I asked “then where is the empty bottle?” She got up and said “I must have thrown it out by accident with all the crying!” She promptly took out the garbage in a hurry and left me there dumbfounded.

Mom often complained to various friends and family members that I had only used her as a babysitter and didn’t just come to just visit.  This despite the fact that I lived over an hour away and had paid sitters and friends that I trusted more.  A serious coping mechanism I guess.  My husband and I made a difficult decision that infamous night. From that pivotal night on October 11, 2008, my mother did not watch my children, alone, ever again.  That was the day my serious health journey began to defend myself to what could happen to me.  That was the day I began the transition to becoming plant based.  From that day, I waited for the inevitable, whatever it may be, and how I would handle it.  That is the day I began to grieve the loss of my mother, real or perceived. A process that will probably never end, even after she is completely gone.


Top 5 Secrets to Optimal Health

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Some of the best tools in your kit for reclaiming your health, involve more than just changes in what you select to eat and what you choose to avoid.

5 things to keep in mind when making a plan to “Bringing Healthy Back” include:

  1. Always eat with hunger and not out of habit.
  2. Be present at every meal.
  3. Know your trigger foods.
  4. Get plenty of quality sleep.
  5. Find ways to alleviate stress.

3 Easy Steps For Big New Year’s Changes

December begins to signal a time that gets many of us geared up for the new year to come. Many of us feel the push to change our lives for the better.  For each of us, the objective or goals are quite unique and often personal.

I have to admit I totally get wrapped up in setting goals for myself and over the years, my approach has evolved.  Believe it or not, my goals don’t revolve around food or even health anymore, well at least not directly. Let me explain.

As I mentioned in my previous post “Alzheimer’s Disease: The Year After” the latter part of 2014 and much of 2015 was spent clearing out my mother’s home and sorting through massive amounts of her belongings. She held on to so much.  Receipts, catalogs, magazines, newspapers, cookbooks, you name it, she kept it. She had shelves of pots and pans yet rarely cooked. We sorted through multiple bags of clothes. At the end of the day, it all amounted to nothing.

It was from this experience, and bit of help from my studies of Buddhism, I began to learn the process of letting go.  Objects are just that, objects. They have a hold on you only if you let them. I vowed to never let the material keep a grip on me. My way may not work for everyone, but if it helps one of you, then sweet, I’m happy!

3 Steps that worked for me in 2015:

  1. Set professional and/or personal goals.
  2. Look at what is sustainable and achievable.
  3. Reevaluate often.  

For 2015, my professional as well as my personal goal was to let go of what no longer mattered in my life. Pretty vague, no?  Rather than saying I would get through all of my professional and personal belongings, I focused on only a few tasks at a time which meant I would have to revaluate often as I went. I only required myself 1 file and 1 bin per week.  If I got through more, great, if not, no biggie.

How far did I get? I downsized as much paperwork as possible.  I went through 3 packed file cabinets, 8 full drawers in all. Scanned, archived, sorted and recycled. My husband and I looked through all of the bins that remained in the basement from when we moved in about 13 years ago. Yup, 13 years! We moved about 1-2 bins per month and had donation trucks scheduled each month to force us to do it. It took the entire year, but I got through my share of mom’s belongings, by sorting and donating what she couldn’t use. I really hope many were helped by the 35 coats she held on to, most of which still had tags still on them.

What are my goals for 2016? Not quite sure of that just yet. The downsizing will surely continue. I think I am moving to scanning pictures and converting to computer scrapbooking, actually putting some fish in my office fish tank and finishing the next book.  😉

What are your goals for 2016?


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Happy Holidays From Nutrition Map

The holiday season can bring great times with those you love and hope for the new year to come.  This year has been a wild ride for me and I had to take some time off from the website to get some things into much needed order (more on that another time), but I am back with big plans for you all for the rest of the year and in 2016. Enjoy!


Welcome 2013.

Usually I take the time at the end of every December to write up a blog that gears me (and my readers) up for the year to come.  I did not make any resolutions last year, and truth be told, I never do.  Rather, I embarked on a journey into self discovery and converted to a more compassionate lifestyle including my diet and behavior.

In 2012, I learned to:

  • Toss away the storybook notions I thought dictated how my life should be.  Instead, I embrace the uniqueness of how beautiful things have become no matter how tattered their appearance.
  • Accept the beauty of the hiccups and bumps I encountered in the road.  I wear my battle scars proudly!
  • Go through life knowing things are going exactly how they destined to be. There is a purpose for all I experience.

Let the journey continue and happy 2013 to all of you!

Yvonne, Nutrition Map

Copyright NutritionMap 2013
Copyright NutritionMap 2013

Happy New Year! Resolve Not to Resolve!


When I see patients for nutrition assessment and education one of the main objectives of the session involves setting realistic goals that are manageable and very specific.

This new year aim for setting the same objective. Stop making ridiculous goals that are unattainable and are doomed to make you feel like a failure by February.

Make this the year you resolve not to resolve.

Make this the year that you focus on being the kind of human being that lives and breaths every single present moment. Be the person that figures out that karma is not a vengeful force but rather a fabulous way of paying it forward with every single act of kindness whether it be holding open the door for someone to paying for someone’s lunch without them knowing it. Every moment counts and your actions reach more than you think.

Make this the year that you turn it around and stop wallowing in misfortune and learning to learn from it and make it an opportunity to turn it around. Does wallowing ever get you anywhere?

Happy new year everyone!

Being Present

I know this is nutrition blog for, but bear with me, you will see where I am going with this…

A fellow blogger ( recently posed the question “Are there words of wisdom you mentally summon when you’re in need of being lifted spiritually or emotionally?”

I was instantly brought back to a little piece of advice that I heard in yoga class many years ago that has become my mantra during meditation, prayer, or really anytime I am stressed or restless.  It was a profound, earth shattering recommendation, at least for me.  I think it was exactly what I needed to hear when life seemed to be moving at a ridiculously fast pace.  I may be quoting it wrong but here it goes:

“You are only truly alive in the present.  The past is a memory and the future, a fantasy. So be present and take in each and every “present moment.”

That’s it.  So simple isn’t it?

When it comes to changing your eating habits and living a healthier lifestyle many people skip living in the moment and move straight into their plans for the future or as I call is: the “when I lose the weight” fantasy.  I hear it all the time.  Things like:

“When I am skinny, I will treat myself to new clothes.”

“When I lose all the weight, I will change my hair.”

“I will not go shopping for swimsuits! I am not ready!”

Now I am not saying that looking to a positive future is necessarily a bad thing.  It becomes a bad thing when you put your “present moments(s)” on hold.  Each healthy choice made whether it be choosing a salad over deep fried meal or taking the stairs over the elevator should be applauded and savored in the “present moment”.  Each present moment will help you reach a goal, however each step is a necessary part of the process.

Are you guilty of the “when I lose the weight” fantasy?